Monday, September 26, 2016

...on stepping out: one foot in front of the other


If you think you're not good enough, IMHO (in my humble opinion), you're not. 

 
Lemme explain, unless you're Olivia Pope with lifelong 'daddy issues', chances are you'll have skills and competences which over time should make you feel good about what you have been able to achieve irrespective of whatever upbringing you have. However no matter how many people tell you that you can, if you think you can't bring to the table what's required, you're probably right. 

 

What to do?

 
Now this is no recipe but!!!!........, I know from experience that putting myself out more, helps to slowly kill that voice. It's a scary thing to do but a necessity. One foot in front of the other. Asking questions (especially the ones that show u up in your opinion). You can't be seeking a safety net when you need to grow. You will find it as you make the mistakes:
 
....The colleagues who value you for your skills and will always tell you when you're being an ass.
 
....The bosses who will build you up and tear you a new one in private but always take the blame for the troops gaffes in public.
 
....The business team partners who will listen to every supposedly creative idea and not hesitate to show you where the pitfalls are.
 
....The friends who will hold your hand when you need it and give you a hot attitude slap or space when you or they need it. Etc. etc.
 
These people become allies you make a safety net. They don't come cheap and you need to, in your desperate bid to grow while still holding on to some form or comfort, not make them a crutch.
 
But grow you must. And grow you will. One face-in-the-mud episode after another, a stronger and more useful you shall emerge.


      xoxo
NKECHI